We have thought to share the thoughts and memories about Tommy by people who have met him. They were read on September 27th during the celebration at Santo Stefano Church in Bologna to say goodbye to Tommy.
This is how people remember him:
This is how people remember him:
His sister Francesca:
there is no need to say how deeply you are able to enter people's heart. I just look at this Church, this square, crowded with people who have come to greet you and make you feel their affection.
Some people are lucky to have known you forever, some have spent with you much time, some have met you quickly in their path, some have known you just through your story made of courage, perseverance, patience, love.
Despite this seeming diversity, you have been able to create and maintain a connection that has hold all of us together, loving you and feeling the good things you share.
Through your words, your actions, your silent suffering you have conveyed your energy even to whom has never met you in person.
What I have always admired in you is the innate ability to be loved without saying or demonstrating anything, to remain yourself without being influenced by others, to be respected with no need to demand respect, to hit the mark with few words, targeted and at the right moment.
Thinking to all these things, how could I not be happy? To have met you in this path, to have shared with you moments that will remain in my heart forever, to have had you everyday part of my life.
I want to think of you only and always with a smile.
I want to celebrate each day spent with you as a feast and continue to remember this.
I want to picture me with you, while we carefree play at the beach, while I reprimand you as you do not want to do your homework, while I come and get you at school, while you run gritty on the soccer field and you kick the ball into the net, while you tease me, while we watch the soccer match on tv, while sitting at the table we joke and laugh, while we teach how to make pasta in the US, while I look at you savoring with satisfaction your favorite dish, while you extend me your shoulder to cry and vent, while you donate me the right word to encourage me without judging me, while with a look we have already understood each others.
I want to keep talking and thinking of you at the present, never at the past.
Because I know you are here and will remain here, like before and from today even more.
His brother Emanuele:
Tommaso has always given me emotions. Since April 1991, before his birth, when my parents told me he would have been born.
Tommaso has given me emotions during his life, talking to him while I took him to school, watching his football matches, in all his decisions, even those ones I did not share, he has given me emotions when he played football with me and my friends and he made us winning 9 - 8 scoring 9 goals.
Tommaso has given me emotions for the way he lived over the last three years, he was afraid but he gave peace to ones who were standing close to him.
I think Tommaso has been able to give emotions to the other people, not only to me that I am his brother.
It is pointless to say more, because Tommaso talked with his eyes and he did not like to speak too much.
His football teammates:
Tommi, Tuma, Bomber,
no matter how you’ll be remembered,
you’ll always remain the best striker we’ve ever played with.
We saw you fighting on the field, in each action of each game, making the most difficult plays.
Scoring with the left or the right foot was the same for you
as the most important thing was to score.
Except scoring with a header, probably because of your original haircut which you didn’t cut even if you were obliged.
Nevertheless you’ve scored even now
because you walked away with your chin up
teaching everyone how to fight making no noise.
Inside and outside the field,
never an inappropriate word.
We brought you a ball
because it’s what everything started with and will go on.
Now you can start again to train yourself,
to elbow your way through like a bull,
to play football also in the heaven.
Exult and win as you always have done.
We love you.
His longlife friends:
In this moment it’s hard for us to find the right words. All of us had his own and unique bond with him that we can’t summarize in few words. But even now Tommy supported us finding them.
It’s him who wrote the words we’re going to read, and we think that he would be happy to share them with us.
“There are people who help you, doing it from the bottom of their heart. They just do it, without asking anything back. These are the people who love you more. I can’t ask more than being surrounded by someone who would do anyything for you. I realize that I’m tremendously lucky. When I think about it, I sleep so well, knowing that ‘tomorrow is another day’.
We would like to thank all the people who have been closed to him, because as he said, they make him feeling lucky also in a situation like that. The biggest thanks to Marcello, Raffaella, Emanuele and Francesca.
It’s overall because of you if Tommy was so special. And a huge thanks to Tommaso, who left us this thought:
13th April 2015
“Ten days ago I was hanging around in my neighborhood, I don’t know why, it was raining, it wasn’t such a good day for me. However, I was walking under the rain with my hood on, headphones in my ears. When I reach the top of the station’s bridge, I look down and I see some trains passing by. Then, without any reason, I stop, I take a deep breath and, it’s embarassing to say, I close my eyes. A flash of inspiration. I felt free, without any doubt or fear. Wonderful. I hoped that everyone could feel the sensation that I lived in that moment”.